Second weddings can be awkward events for families. It is hard enough sometimes getting adjusted to the new member and a new family along with it. It can be difficult not only on the new couple, but also any children that they have. The wedding should be a smooth transition and uniting of two families into one. It is also important to make sure the kids feel comfortable and enjoy themselves. Generally it seems that second weddings are usually smaller, more close selection of guests and family members. This can really help families get adjusted to the marriage, especially children. This can also really help get the children more involved in the wedding. They can be a part of the wedding party, taking up spots like ushers, bridesmaids, flower girls, ring bearers, and even best man. Its a good way to show the children that family still comes first, especially if they have been hurt or depressed about the original breakup or even death of their other parent. The right place is also important. A place that the whole family can enjoy too can be a wise choice. It could be like a mini-vacation. Not only do they get to celebrate the marriage, but they also get time together to bond and have fun. Input from the kids here can be important and help make the transition smoother. A nice getaway to a private outdoor place or to the city or your familys favorite vacation spot can be perfect to help strengthen the second wedding. Even letting the children pick out little details about the wedding will help them feel like a better part of the ceremony. Maybe ideas about food, flowers, color scheme, guest seating, and stuff like this can bring the family together a little more. Not to say that they have complete say or know everything, considering it isnt their wedding, but allowing them to at least speak their mind will reassure them of their importance in the family through hard times. If there are older children, teen years or higher, then they may want to contribute to the wedding in a more unique and personal way. Depending on their talents and interests, they could sing a song, paint a picture, or even read a poem they wrote to celebrate the moment. These little touches of themselves in the wedding decorations and celebration helps them to understand its not just about two people falling in love, but its also about still keeping the family together and happy. The important thing is to remember that even though it may be a wonderful time for you and your new spouse, it can be a confusing time for the children. Making it more intimate for the whole family can start the foundation off right to a new chapter in everyones life. |
