When we consider that the word allowance means, allowing for, it puts that A word into better perspective.

Children will need access to their own stash of cash when they reach a certain age. Kids develop this need around age 8 or 9 and it grows into the monster it will become by about age 15 or 16 ... they do get more expensive with age, dont they?

At age 8, we began giving our older daughter money for each A on her report card and for each 100% on tests. We receive flack from other parents about it to this day. Mainly, their argument is that children should do well in school because they want to. Is this the same as just because? Sounds like it to me. I think parents are afraid to reward their kids for good grades simply because they feel this will set a bad example. But a bad example for what? That if they work hard and do well, they will get rewards? Isnt that precisely how the world works? We still think its a good idea, even 4 years later.

This same daughter gets an allowance plus her good grade money. She can spend her own money on whatever trips her wire. She has learned not to squander everything on one momentarily gratifying purchase, shes a whiz at making sure shes given the correct amount of change and her shopping savvy is positively inspiring. She also must put ten percent of her money in the bank. Its an amount not likely to be missed, but teaches her the benefits of paying yourself first. Shes amassed quite the savings account!

My younger daughter is in first grade and beginning to demand her share of the booty. She now gets money for perfect test scores and for a good report card. She receives a lot less than her sister but shes 5 years younger and hasnt learned to tell the difference ... yet. She also gets a small allowance. She knows how much she has to spend and is learning the rituals of managing her own money, too.

While some children dont really care about going to the mall or buying their own special treats, most kids do care ... an awful lot. Children will begin craving all sorts of pricey, impractical things by a certain age. A good alternative to spending a fortune catering to their whims is teaching them to save for frivolous luxuries. If they want something impractical that we cant rationalize buying for them, theyre on their own.

A potential problem I see occurring when children dont have their own money is a possible desire to steal, be it from their parents wallet or something cool they feel they have to have from a store. Without the ability to earn or make the money fairly, they might feel the only way to attain something they want is to take it. Naturally, we teach our children that stealing is wrong but when kids, or adults for that matter, feel helpless they tend to take morality into their own hands. Besides, kids need to learn fiscal responsibility. I think the earlier we allow them to experience the rewards and triumphs of good spending habits, the better judges of value they will become.

One controversy is paying children for doing chores. This is a tough call. I have just begun implementing mandatory chores in our home. Considering its never been one of my better parenting abilities, Im still struggling through the details. I have been known to threaten their allowance if they dont do their chores but it doesnt really work the way I want it to. My older daughter decides if its worth it at that point and thats not the point at all, is it? So, Im backtracking on this one and being firmer about chores just getting done and trying not to threaten their livelihood.

I think allowance is a great teaching tool when given in the spirit of generosity and practicality. Its never too early to learn or teach responsibility and when we consider that allowance is a good math lesson, weve just added to our childrens knowledge base considerably.

Copyright 2002 2005 - Rexanne Mancini